Friend: hehehe…I saw you in my dreams yesterday (don’t remember the dream)
me: ek baat bata yeh stars ko dreams mein dekhne ki umar mein tu mujhe kyoin dekhti hai :D
Friend: :D woh age beeth gayee!! ;) ... i dont dream of stars now.. probably my past exp also plays a role here.. :)
me: dil jaavaan to duniyaan jawaan hoti hai
Friend: I know the difference between dreams & reality now...
me: ahsaas aur sapne hi jindagi ko khoobsoorat banate hain
me: sapnoin ki duniya jyada achii lagati hai
Friend: hmm.. probably
me: i mean though dreams are not reality, they make us smile…reality hardly makes us smile, so I live reality but enjoy dreams
Friend: but how does it feel when they dont get fulfilled.. :)
me: u feel very bad when dreams are not fulfilled
Friend: exactly! the reason why I am scared to dream...
me: worse when u don’t know what is your mistake
Friend: but not that I don’t dream at all… I do dream... But probably don’t enjoy it
me: but the time u dream u feel good
Friend: the moment I start dreaming... I bring myself back to reality
me: thats wrong…just keep dreaming…after dream, say to yourself enjoyed now and now come back to reality
Friend: :D…ok..
me: this may give us mix of happy and sad feel that’s the balance…since reality hardly gives happiness. So dont rely completely on reality. We have all rights to make us feel good.
Friend: :D yeah
me: very stupid philosophy na :D
Friend: what to do.. we need to make ourselves happy.. :D
me: happiness is the ultimate goal of life :D
Friend: :D good philosophy..
me: u r the only person who like my stupid philosophies :D
Friend: what ever happens to us in life... How much ever ups and downs we have seen.. one thing I have noticed is, our expectations never come down… :D hehehehe
we need to make ourselves happy na.. ;)
me: we should never keep our expectations low…but we should always keep hope alive
Friend: nope.. i feel expectations make us sad and make us suffer probably. They are too different things…
Hope is minimum... expectations are always high!!
me: see u should not limit time for fulfilling your expectations if expectations are high ..hope should be higher
Now u r young...so u say u have whole life to get that…after 50 ‘s, u should feel in my next life i will surely get that or you may start thinking your kids will do what all you could not do.
Friend: :)
me: see don’t smile
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just laugh only OK :D
Friend: hahahaha …yaar.. People will turn around and stare at me…am laughing like hell :D
me: u know I decide I will write all my such stupid thoughts in my blog
Friend: yeah.. u should definitely!
me: :D
Friend: y r u laughing…the blog wholly & solely belongs to us... we can write anything and everything there… :)
me: sure
Monday, August 6, 2007
Friday, August 3, 2007
Abt divorce and divorce reasons
hey
check this
http://www.rediff.com/news/2007/aug/02divorce.htm
Article says divorce rate is very high among IT people.
I am NOT agree with above statement in Article :
“Financial freedom, lack of time at home, erratic working hours, work pressure, financial security and stress are being seen as the main reasons for this fiasco.”
Why...these are my arguments:
Financial freedom and financial security:
Being financially strong is a strong point for family. Just spend your money to provide quality life and enjoy. How to spend…sometimes you listen to your spouse and other time you listen to him/her. Don’t stop the lady from being financially strong, need to give her more respect and decision power.
lack of time at home:
When you are at home, any way how much time you give to each other…for how many minutes you look at each other and give a smile….chat ..gossip and ask about the day and say some sweet words. Start doing this everyday for 15 minutes only, and see the difference…at least situation will not go to divorce.
working hours, work pressure, stress:
IT people get more salary on average, that’s the price they have to pay to get more salary! To handle stress and pressure, there are many books, that u need to read and follow, friends and counselors whom you are ready to listen…should have some hobbies to distress… ..Yoga, meditataion, art of living, reiki and so on… just pick any way that is suitable for you. There is no stress or pressure if you know how to come out of that.
Love, respect and trust are the only required ingredients to make the home life successful when the couple is educated and financially strong. It is lack of understanding that is the reason of high rate of divorce and unhappy life. Being financially strong is not the reason of divorces.
check this
http://www.rediff.com/news/2007/aug/02divorce.htm
Article says divorce rate is very high among IT people.
I am NOT agree with above statement in Article :
“Financial freedom, lack of time at home, erratic working hours, work pressure, financial security and stress are being seen as the main reasons for this fiasco.”
Why...these are my arguments:
Financial freedom and financial security:
Being financially strong is a strong point for family. Just spend your money to provide quality life and enjoy. How to spend…sometimes you listen to your spouse and other time you listen to him/her. Don’t stop the lady from being financially strong, need to give her more respect and decision power.
lack of time at home:
When you are at home, any way how much time you give to each other…for how many minutes you look at each other and give a smile….chat ..gossip and ask about the day and say some sweet words. Start doing this everyday for 15 minutes only, and see the difference…at least situation will not go to divorce.
working hours, work pressure, stress:
IT people get more salary on average, that’s the price they have to pay to get more salary! To handle stress and pressure, there are many books, that u need to read and follow, friends and counselors whom you are ready to listen…should have some hobbies to distress… ..Yoga, meditataion, art of living, reiki and so on… just pick any way that is suitable for you. There is no stress or pressure if you know how to come out of that.
Love, respect and trust are the only required ingredients to make the home life successful when the couple is educated and financially strong. It is lack of understanding that is the reason of high rate of divorce and unhappy life. Being financially strong is not the reason of divorces.
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